If there is one thing I love, is gaining experiences. I feel like I’m a bit of a hoarder of experiences. When I work, when I vacation, when I’m out running errands. I am constantly trying to be open to, and creating the environment where experiences can happen. So, you might be thinking (or asking me), how does one create an environment for experiences. I think there are a number of things you can do. Firstly I think it’s like any opportunity, you have to be open to seeing it. An opportunity will pass you by if you are not open to seeing it. The second thing is being in the moment and taking interest. In fact, I think that taking interest may be just as, if not more important as being open for it. Taking interest is simply that, taking an interest in something or more likely in someone. A while ago, I found out that one of the easiest methods to get people to open up is to take an interest in what they are saying. Listen with intent. It’s not as easy as you thing. Listening with intent takes practice. You need to be tuned in to not only what the person is saying, but how they are saying it and more importantly what sparks the other person. Some might call it a gleam or a way that people will ‘light up’ when they are talking about something that they are passionate over. If you want to know what that look looks like, just go watch a couple of Ted talks. These are typically people that are brimming with excitement over their topic. Take Emily Lavine for example and her Ted Talk.
So why take an interest in others ?
Your motivation for this may be different than mine, and that’s ok. But for me, I like to think that I have a number of original ideas… but in reality, as much as I try, I will revert to trusted methods of thought or ways I’ve always done/thing of things. So I rely on working with/ talking with others to get a different point of view. My methods and thoughts are mine. Others have their ideas, I find that by using attentive listening, you can glean from others some different ways of looking at pretty much anything & everything. As I mentioned earlier, you need to be open to it as well. And for me at least, I find that most people will educate me to some subject areas I would have never thought of, or given much thought.
So why intently listen to someone ? I was raised in an era where I was taught to be respectful to others. You respect someone until you deem that the respect is not earned or justified. I listen because I like hearing different ideas, and how people will convey their ideas. I can do a number of things, I can learn, as it may be something that I didn’t know previously. I can understand an opinion, one that may not be in line with my own, but knowing it won’t make me ignorant to a difference of opinion. or in some cases, I can come away with a great story and a new experience.
I think that the more you have experiences and/or share experiences the greater richness you have to your life. I tend to gravitate to those that have greater experiences. As I find that those who have a richness in experiences, tend to be great storytellers too.
So for me there is a joy in experiences… But with that comes a burden. The burden is that as I grow older I feel like it becomes my responsibility to share those experiences. To be honest I don’t really know why I feel like I need to do this. However, I feel that if I can help others, then I should. Similar to the reason I donate blood and go on a regular basis, simply, because I can, and I feel I should. So if I should then why do I think this is a burden ? Maybe it’s because I haven’t found the right outlet to do so. Maybe I need to work on a Ted Talk… or maybe just writing in my blog is a starting point…
What about you ? How do you share your experiences, or do you feel you need to ? Are you hooked on new experiences ?